MANUP—Delight in your Daughters in 2020
The bonding of fathers with their daughters from an early age is just as important as it is for sons. I met a young woman in her late twenties who had tremendous praise for her father. She spoke of him as being a phenomenal dad who laid an excellent foundation for her from infancy by teaching her by example and precept what a true dad is all about. She mentioned that when she looks around in society for a potential husband and father of her children, she reflects on her dad’s principled life as a genuine leader and distinguished man of integrity. Girls need this example today as they face the challenges of a morally sick environment which seeks to desensitize them away from their intrinsic value. It is therefore important that fathers understand the need to delight in their daughters. Here are a few important needs that may bring delight to your daughter:
Daughters Need Unconditional love: Fathers should be the first to show genuine, pure, tender, unselfish, unconditional love toward their daughters from birth, because it fosters strong emotional, social and spiritual esteem levels in their psyche. An absence of such love may make daughters potential candidates for human sharks seeking to strip them very early of their ability to see what genuine love from a man entails. A young woman once told me that her father deserted her as a child and she grew up searching for a father’s love only to end up in the arms of individuals who took advantage of her. Her story is like that of many women I know, where the absence of a dad’s love left them with great emotional deficits.
Daughters Need Affirmation: From their formative years, let your daughters know how special they are, how beautiful they are developing externally and internally. Tell them how proud you are to have them as your daughters and express that you see them as very unique and intelligent. This verbal affirmation acts as a motivation for them to set a high standard for themselves and encourage robust security and stability blocks in all areas of their personality.
Daughters Need to See Love exhibited toward their Mothers: You may ask: How significant is the display of love daughters see exhibited toward their mother? Very significant. By such acts, your daughters are forming pictures in their minds and setting a steady gauge as to the quality of character they may look for in their life partners. You are also presenting an example that will show to them that faithfulness and fidelity within the family are character-traits that keep relationships on a solid, long-lasting foundation. Running around with other women may give your growing daughters a false sense of family and they may grow up to believe that such a lifestyle may be a good alternative workable for them in their future family.
Daughters Need to Witness Integrity: Girls are growing up in today’s world where truth is said to be relative, honesty is no longer the best policy and morality is a figment of the imagination. Daughters therefore need to have a dad of whom they can confidently speak as one whose character, when placed under the public microscope, shines forth like a beacon. The wise man in Proverbs 20 and verse 7 of the Bible states that: “the righteous man walks in his integrity; his children are blessed after him”. Mahatma Gandhi also emphasized: "There are seven things that will destroy us: Wealth without work; Pleasure without conscience; Knowledge without character; Religion without sacrifice; Politics without principle; Science without humanity; Business without ethics."
The above is just a short but important list of positive actions in which you as a father can get involved, to bring delight to your daughters as they grow up to fulfill the purposes for which God permitted them to come into this world. I wonder what it would be like if every father create delight for their daughters?
Daughters Need Unconditional love: Fathers should be the first to show genuine, pure, tender, unselfish, unconditional love toward their daughters from birth, because it fosters strong emotional, social and spiritual esteem levels in their psyche. An absence of such love may make daughters potential candidates for human sharks seeking to strip them very early of their ability to see what genuine love from a man entails. A young woman once told me that her father deserted her as a child and she grew up searching for a father’s love only to end up in the arms of individuals who took advantage of her. Her story is like that of many women I know, where the absence of a dad’s love left them with great emotional deficits.
Daughters Need Affirmation: From their formative years, let your daughters know how special they are, how beautiful they are developing externally and internally. Tell them how proud you are to have them as your daughters and express that you see them as very unique and intelligent. This verbal affirmation acts as a motivation for them to set a high standard for themselves and encourage robust security and stability blocks in all areas of their personality.
Daughters Need to See Love exhibited toward their Mothers: You may ask: How significant is the display of love daughters see exhibited toward their mother? Very significant. By such acts, your daughters are forming pictures in their minds and setting a steady gauge as to the quality of character they may look for in their life partners. You are also presenting an example that will show to them that faithfulness and fidelity within the family are character-traits that keep relationships on a solid, long-lasting foundation. Running around with other women may give your growing daughters a false sense of family and they may grow up to believe that such a lifestyle may be a good alternative workable for them in their future family.
Daughters Need to Witness Integrity: Girls are growing up in today’s world where truth is said to be relative, honesty is no longer the best policy and morality is a figment of the imagination. Daughters therefore need to have a dad of whom they can confidently speak as one whose character, when placed under the public microscope, shines forth like a beacon. The wise man in Proverbs 20 and verse 7 of the Bible states that: “the righteous man walks in his integrity; his children are blessed after him”. Mahatma Gandhi also emphasized: "There are seven things that will destroy us: Wealth without work; Pleasure without conscience; Knowledge without character; Religion without sacrifice; Politics without principle; Science without humanity; Business without ethics."
The above is just a short but important list of positive actions in which you as a father can get involved, to bring delight to your daughters as they grow up to fulfill the purposes for which God permitted them to come into this world. I wonder what it would be like if every father create delight for their daughters?